Everyone gets depressed at some time or another. Something may come along, trigger a thought or a belief held in the unconscious mind and boom! -- We plunge into the depths of despair and depression. As we grow up we learn to recognize patterns, and for the most part create our own strategy to heave ourselves out of that dark space. Sometimes it lasts an hour, sometimes a day and sometimes perhaps longer.
During those times we know that we suffer. We can see that those who love us suffer around us. They may want to help but often do not know how. But what we may never have thought about and do not know is the immeasurable toll it takes on the collective unconscious.
The collective mind of human kind is on an evolutionary trajectory -- to that place of lightness, joy, love and peace -- high vibrational stuff. That is our natural pathway even at the individual level, is it not? Are we not all seeking that place of interminable happiness, we each in our own way? Depression is a drag on that. Every minute we allow ourselves to remain depressed, we are not only going in the reverse direction ourselves, we are also contributing our mite to the collective very depressed unconscious. Another layer is added on. That which was already dense and heavy gets a little heavier.
Allow? Allow did you say?
Yes, ladies and gentlemen, being depressed is a matter of choice. No one told us this before. We all thought we had to react to negative stuff around us that we were unable to control, change or influence by being depressed, by surrendering our power, by compromising our goal to be happy and by accepting our victimhood.
That was before we learned that everything is energy including our thoughts and beliefs; and that repetitive thoughts become our deeply embedded unconscious beliefs. That was before we understood that depression is a symptom of our disconnection from our own true inner self -- our spirit. That was before we learned that there are no victims, only volunteers, no matter how unconscious that may be.
The onset of depression is a sure sign that we are done being victims, we are ready to connect with our own inner spirit and take our power back. Sure it will take a little time. Sure it will take a little help. Like a child learning to walk, we may lean on a friend from time to time. We may even pop a few pills now and again to take the edge off. But like every child we must eventually learn to stand, walk and run on our own two feet. Because if we do not, we remain spiritually invalid.
And think of it this way. Each time one of us is willing to exercise this choice, we add another shoulder to the wheel. And this time in the right direction, towards our collective joy. Isn't it cool that my little thoughts, choices and actions have such far reaching implications? They do. Everyone's do. Believe it.
Malabika offers a Mentoring Program, that supports individuals in stepping out of depression and into their own inner power. It starts with awareness of the realm of spirit and energy . It is about Spiritual Intelligence. To read more, visit this website.
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Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Thursday, May 5, 2011
Love or Control? Which Would You Choose?
Can a parent move from the overwhelming desire to direct and control when a son is clearly headed down the slippery slope? This is probably one of the greatest challenges of parenting.
I thought I would share this poignant story of Lily and her son James (not their real names).
A wonderful young man in his twenties, James has had the hardest time fitting into the system. This young man is sensitive, loving and kind and very creative -- not exactly the qualities society expects of a young man. Hence his trouble. At some stage, like others with similar difficulties, James started to flirt with drugs.
Lily moved through all the stages that any caring mother would. From the initial disbelief, to finally recognizing, and then supporting James in addressing the issue. She discussed, she persuaded, she cajoled, she explained, she reasoned, she bargained and eventually spelt out the riot act. Lily needed to do something, to fix it, to feel that in some way she could influence the boy's decisions. She needed him to be in control of his life so she could be on top of hers.
Despite his genuine resolve to set matters right, James was by now so deep into the mess that he required professional help. Lily offered to get him that too. But James would have none of it.
Lily had run out of options, alternatives, strategies for action. Nothing seemed to help. What now?
At this critical juncture, Lily took a brave decision that few parents know how. She was not going to resign in anger and bitterness. She was not going to project her own insecurities and fears on James anymore. She would stop dwelling on the worst case scenarios.
Instead, Lily was going surrender to the process, and surrender with love. She recalled in her mind what a wonderful child James had been, the joys they had shared. She reminded herself that James had his own spiritual journey to follow that was not up to her to control. Her job was to love him and trust in his ability to find its way out of the maze. Her job was to be there when he needed her counsel and to respect his being.
This was a 180 degree turn around in mind set and attitude for Lily, not something that happens automatically, but with deep conviction and dedication. Lily was not about to take short cuts. Her son's future was at stake.
She used all the tools in her spiritual and energy healing toolbox to stay on track. Most of all she maintained her boundaries and made sure James had enough space to make his choices without her interference.
"Change the way you look at the world, and the world around you changes." These are Dr. Wayne Dyer's wise words. It took about two weeks for the real change to take place in this case. Mother and son had barely been in touch during this period, both acutely aware of the need to respect the other’s boundary.
On that bitterly cold and rainy night Lily found herself becoming anxious about James's whereabouts. Not allowing her anxiety to overcome her, she sent him a short loving text message. It was as if she had just opened the door James had been waiting for. He reached out to her for help like never before. He was sick of being sick and tired. He was done with this kind of life. He wanted to change. In the space Lily had created for him, James had finally come to realize the depth of his despair, and also the fact that no one could help him unless he wanted to be helped. He was ready now.
A very relieved Lily was glad to provide the support she had for so long wished to give James. And now that there were no controlling shackles to push against, a very determined young man realized his rare good fortune that his mother was lovingly standing by to support him.
He is well on his way to recovery. Doing could not accomplish it, loving did.
Mentorship Program in Spiritual Intelligence at
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
I thought I would share this poignant story of Lily and her son James (not their real names).
A wonderful young man in his twenties, James has had the hardest time fitting into the system. This young man is sensitive, loving and kind and very creative -- not exactly the qualities society expects of a young man. Hence his trouble. At some stage, like others with similar difficulties, James started to flirt with drugs.
Lily moved through all the stages that any caring mother would. From the initial disbelief, to finally recognizing, and then supporting James in addressing the issue. She discussed, she persuaded, she cajoled, she explained, she reasoned, she bargained and eventually spelt out the riot act. Lily needed to do something, to fix it, to feel that in some way she could influence the boy's decisions. She needed him to be in control of his life so she could be on top of hers.
Despite his genuine resolve to set matters right, James was by now so deep into the mess that he required professional help. Lily offered to get him that too. But James would have none of it.
Lily had run out of options, alternatives, strategies for action. Nothing seemed to help. What now?
At this critical juncture, Lily took a brave decision that few parents know how. She was not going to resign in anger and bitterness. She was not going to project her own insecurities and fears on James anymore. She would stop dwelling on the worst case scenarios.
Instead, Lily was going surrender to the process, and surrender with love. She recalled in her mind what a wonderful child James had been, the joys they had shared. She reminded herself that James had his own spiritual journey to follow that was not up to her to control. Her job was to love him and trust in his ability to find its way out of the maze. Her job was to be there when he needed her counsel and to respect his being.
This was a 180 degree turn around in mind set and attitude for Lily, not something that happens automatically, but with deep conviction and dedication. Lily was not about to take short cuts. Her son's future was at stake.
She used all the tools in her spiritual and energy healing toolbox to stay on track. Most of all she maintained her boundaries and made sure James had enough space to make his choices without her interference.
"Change the way you look at the world, and the world around you changes." These are Dr. Wayne Dyer's wise words. It took about two weeks for the real change to take place in this case. Mother and son had barely been in touch during this period, both acutely aware of the need to respect the other’s boundary.
On that bitterly cold and rainy night Lily found herself becoming anxious about James's whereabouts. Not allowing her anxiety to overcome her, she sent him a short loving text message. It was as if she had just opened the door James had been waiting for. He reached out to her for help like never before. He was sick of being sick and tired. He was done with this kind of life. He wanted to change. In the space Lily had created for him, James had finally come to realize the depth of his despair, and also the fact that no one could help him unless he wanted to be helped. He was ready now.
A very relieved Lily was glad to provide the support she had for so long wished to give James. And now that there were no controlling shackles to push against, a very determined young man realized his rare good fortune that his mother was lovingly standing by to support him.
He is well on his way to recovery. Doing could not accomplish it, loving did.
Mentorship Program in Spiritual Intelligence at
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
April was Fun
Why? Because beautiful Ms Ariana was here.
And I got to be full time grandmother for the entire month. Loved it.
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Creating the ability to see Wholeness
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Creating the ability to see Wholeness
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Creating Heart Space
The heart is an amazing organ. It is responsible for much more than pumping blood. Recent research is uncovering the true power of the heart in helping us heal and deal with our environment.
When we are able to perceive a situation from the energy of the heart, it magicallly changes its flavor. For the better. A situation that may have been stressing us, seems to lose its bite. We can move relationships from ones that drain us to energizing ones.
This short little meditation (11 min.) gives us some tools to start creating that. Enjoy.
Click here to download the Heart Space Meditation.
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
When we are able to perceive a situation from the energy of the heart, it magicallly changes its flavor. For the better. A situation that may have been stressing us, seems to lose its bite. We can move relationships from ones that drain us to energizing ones.
This short little meditation (11 min.) gives us some tools to start creating that. Enjoy.
Click here to download the Heart Space Meditation.
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Good Wishes Galore
This morning I was talking to a lady who was telling me about her exciting journey into spirituality and how her life is beginning to change as she learns to apply the spiritual principles and practices. Then she follows it up with ‘I wish more people were doing this. Life in the world then would be so much better.’
Back in ’05, I remember, a group of us were studying ‘A Course in Miracles’. After a particularly illuminating lesson one day, one of the participants threw up his hands in the air and asked incredulously, “why are there only 14 of us here? I wish there were 1400”.
And just now I read my friend Tom’s FB post starting up with “I wish more humans would understand……..”.
This is the wonderful nature of the human being. We are constantly searching for something better and as we discover something we deeply resonate with, we promptly want the entire world to share it, to buy into it, to start living by it. The fellows who have learned to make more money in a simpler way, can hardly wait to show us how. From cleaning houses to teaching children to finding spiritual solace, we are so eager to spread it out and wish others would absorb and embrace what we have just discovered. Have you noticed? Isn’t it wonderful?
And they will. This is the way of evolution. We learn, we wish, we teach, we plant seeds, we carry on. The more we wish the more it comes true. The stronger our desire the sooner it happens.
It is sure to happen. Just don’t hold your breath as to when and how. And release all attachments to what it ‘should’ look like. You have set forth a desire. The universe must honor it divinely timed.
So keep wishing folks. Good wishes galore.
Malabika Shaw
Your Spiritual Intelligence Guide
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
Back in ’05, I remember, a group of us were studying ‘A Course in Miracles’. After a particularly illuminating lesson one day, one of the participants threw up his hands in the air and asked incredulously, “why are there only 14 of us here? I wish there were 1400”.
And just now I read my friend Tom’s FB post starting up with “I wish more humans would understand……..”.
This is the wonderful nature of the human being. We are constantly searching for something better and as we discover something we deeply resonate with, we promptly want the entire world to share it, to buy into it, to start living by it. The fellows who have learned to make more money in a simpler way, can hardly wait to show us how. From cleaning houses to teaching children to finding spiritual solace, we are so eager to spread it out and wish others would absorb and embrace what we have just discovered. Have you noticed? Isn’t it wonderful?
And they will. This is the way of evolution. We learn, we wish, we teach, we plant seeds, we carry on. The more we wish the more it comes true. The stronger our desire the sooner it happens.
It is sure to happen. Just don’t hold your breath as to when and how. And release all attachments to what it ‘should’ look like. You have set forth a desire. The universe must honor it divinely timed.
So keep wishing folks. Good wishes galore.
Malabika Shaw
Your Spiritual Intelligence Guide
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
Monday, February 21, 2011
Finding it hard to meditate?
For all those people who think that it is hard to meditate. Nicole lays it all out. Brilliantly. You'll be surprised.
Nicole on meditation and no ego.
Enjoy.
Malabika
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
Nicole on meditation and no ego.
Enjoy.
Malabika
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
Sunday, February 6, 2011
Planting the Seeds of Change
Each of us is living with something in our lives that we would rather change. Isn't it? For some it is a short term thing -- like a nervousness around a meeting or an exam. And some want a longer term thing -- like an improved relationship, or a new job, or relief from a chronic body pain.
Whatever it may be, one of the biggest impediment to change is our inability to imagine what it would be like after the change. We remain far too focused on what we 'don't' want. But we need that imagination accompanied by the feelings to bring about that change.
This meditation helps plant the seed for that which we do want and applies certain principles from yoga and the Law of Attraction to bring it forward.
This Meditation for Busy People is the offering for February 2011. Enjoy.
Seeds of Change Meditaton. 10 min
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
Whatever it may be, one of the biggest impediment to change is our inability to imagine what it would be like after the change. We remain far too focused on what we 'don't' want. But we need that imagination accompanied by the feelings to bring about that change.
This meditation helps plant the seed for that which we do want and applies certain principles from yoga and the Law of Attraction to bring it forward.
This Meditation for Busy People is the offering for February 2011. Enjoy.
Seeds of Change Meditaton. 10 min
http://www.visionwholistic.net/
Creating the ability to see Wholeness
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